Well, I’m
sure many of u did encounter of some drama queen in work, schools or elsewhere.
But living with one is a terrible hell. I’m kinda unfortunate to have one. And I
thought she might have mature over the years, but nope, she is still as bossy,
arrogant, complainer and find fault at every opportunities.
Of all the previous trip/outings that I went with her, never once goes smoothly…Perhentian, Penang (twice!), HK…all these ended up in quarrels coz of her ‘attitude’ of bossing and throwing blames on me for tiny reason she could only think of.
The recent one was a trip last week….the incidents still kept lingering in my mind now even days after the trip has over, that I decided to pen it down…coz I felt uneasy with all those accusations/blames that happened during the trip kept ‘boggling’ my mind. I need an outlet to express this out in order to obtain my inner peace.
I thought she would have ‘behave’ since she’s no longer in her 20s now, but a mature mid-30’s, but I was wrong. And I made a wrong choice by inviting her to join me in the trip which got me into a terrible 4-day miseries and depression even after the holiday has ended.
These are only a few of the many photo taking incidents insults that I received. Others are like picture ‘senget’, blur, or accidently taken when she was not ready/smilling…all sorts of complaints. I’m not a photographer and being paid to do all this. Even a paid photographer doesn’t deserved all these insults.
Of all the previous trip/outings that I went with her, never once goes smoothly…Perhentian, Penang (twice!), HK…all these ended up in quarrels coz of her ‘attitude’ of bossing and throwing blames on me for tiny reason she could only think of.
The recent one was a trip last week….the incidents still kept lingering in my mind now even days after the trip has over, that I decided to pen it down…coz I felt uneasy with all those accusations/blames that happened during the trip kept ‘boggling’ my mind. I need an outlet to express this out in order to obtain my inner peace.
I thought she would have ‘behave’ since she’s no longer in her 20s now, but a mature mid-30’s, but I was wrong. And I made a wrong choice by inviting her to join me in the trip which got me into a terrible 4-day miseries and depression even after the holiday has ended.
Photo-taking
Insults
It seems
like the trip is ‘her trip’ and everything is catered to her wish & request.
Whenever her ‘wish or request’ is not met, I was the one to be blamed for it.
It started from day 1 where she has planned out to cover as much places in
Macau island, some are indeed very photogenic…but again, we have limit – TIME.
The moment we stepped out of the ferry terminal, she rushed me (to walk faster)
to every destination, and it was under the hot sun. I have tried my best to
catch up with her pace by running a lil and walking fast but again I have
limit. It was 9 something in the morning under the scorching hot sun and I
could hardly open my eyes wide coz of the glaring sun. Knowing me that I can’t
stand the heat (and has happened to faint due to sun heat in previous years) I
slowed down a lil to catch some breathe, but she was way ahead towards the
destination without looking back. Well, I’m ok with me walking slowly as long
as I don’t bother her. But the ‘over-excited’ her was aggressively pushing
& literally scolding me to walk faster so that I could help her snap a ‘beautiful’
picture for her. And of course, I did helped her, not once nor twice but
snapping many many photos until she is satisfied. Out of sudden I have been given
the chore to become her photographer, how ‘cleverly’ she bossed me. And yes,
I have to abide with her ‘command’ in taking perfect photos otherwise I’ll end up getting
ear-torture of those ‘abusive’ shouts, such as:
‘walaueh,
don’t u know how to take picture??!! U see! U see the picture! Like that my
eyes closed also u snap picture?!! Pls do it again and don’t waste my phone
battery!’ à Come on la….logical thinking, she
blinks her eye the moment I push the capture button, how can I control? I could
have the chance to reply her back but I kept cool coz I don’t want to quarrel
with her on the street and it was so sunny that I just want to get this done
fast.
‘aiyer, why
I look so fat in the picture?! Don’t u know how to take picture??!! à seriously I dunno what is the best
position to get her pose to look slim coz I m not a professional photographer.These are only a few of the many photo taking incidents insults that I received. Others are like picture ‘senget’, blur, or accidently taken when she was not ready/smilling…all sorts of complaints. I’m not a photographer and being paid to do all this. Even a paid photographer doesn’t deserved all these insults.
to be continued...
9 comments:
You deserve a better friend than this, drop her, I also encountered a friend who likes to rush things recently, everything she wants fast fast fast, even go for a short trip, she wants to be first in everything, I can't catch up with her, I mean trip is meant to be rest and relax, not like this, everything rush rush, so I made up my mind to avoid contact with her
You are funny that you still endure this fella after knowing how bossy, arrogant and fault finding she is. I would have dumped this friend and moved on. Once bitten twice shy.
I ever encounter a lady from exercise, got a time, she ask a friend to help her take picture, after taking for her and she browse through the photo, she told my friend, u should take like this, like that, got a time, I bump into her, she ask me to help her take picture, after that, said I take the picture blur, ask another lady standing nearby to take for her, she also said the lady, took the picture blur...
I think this is her sister lah.
what if this is your sibling?
I have an older sister who is a perfectionist. I know she loves me a lot but I cannot take some of her perfectionist expectations on me so we always quarrel. Each overseas trip I go with her sure got one day we will quarrel and I will cry until I told her directly if she continues to be like that with me, I will cut her out of my mind. After that I could see she did her best to control her perfectionist expectation on me but she tried to play the victim saying I am threatening her by saying I will cut her out of my life but I tell her that is how I feel. if she values our relationship she should mellow down and now at 50 she is getting there but we still quarrel now and then. so if it is your older sister do talk to her about how you feel. give her a chance to change if she values your sistership.
If it is our family, we Buddhists believe that because of karma, then we are one family, they are our family members this life because previous life we owe them or they owe us so we become one family to repay, so what you can do, if you are buddhist and believe in karma, chant and transfer the merits to your family members if it is your sister.
It works! Believe me.
Goodness! I'm sorry for you but I enjoyed this post, not that I am a sadist hah..hah... I wonder is this person a friend or a sibling. You are such an accommodating person.
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